found

....well, maybe in the (long) process of finding:

compassion

patience

resilience

self reliance

joy in solitude

trust in my 'gut' 

boundaries

creativity for comfort

friends for whom flight is not an option

insight

patience

spiritual resources 

nature's solace

photography

ability to distinguish fear from anger

healthy detachment

permission (from self) for respite

patience

fellow travelers

mindfulness

writing

more confidence in financial matters
letting go of past conflicts

ability to do household repairs

increased simplicity

Olivia Hoblitzelle*

travel planning skills

a thicker skin

patience

selectivity with activities and people
'wants', not 'shoulds'
the "beginning again" possibility of each new day

*author of the book:  

Ten Thousand Joys & Ten Thousand Sorrows: A Couple's Journey Through Alzheimer's